"Frederica Chapman has brought together a magnificent concept in a form that people can relate to, dream about and assimilate into their lives. It speaks loud and clear for the feminine that so many of us are striving for."
Marion Woodman, acclaimed Jungian analyst and author
"Classic rite-of-passage literature, appealing and important, with a workbook format clearly designed to encourage dialogue, and inspire personal re-thinking of a subject too often used to polarize rather than to foster understanding."
Connie Conway, editor
"Perhaps, as the tale promises, our gender prejudices will indeed dissipate if we integrate the energy of the Old Goddess into our consciousness. For stories like this wonderfully told tale are actually our inside truths! Listen carefully!"
Karen Gillman, PhD, poet and author
In our media-driven, competitive world, an adolescent girl can become lost, or she can come to understand and appreciate her unique gifts, and gain self-esteem to make her way in this challenging world. Using the experience and guidance of elder mentors, a girl can step back "momentarily" from outward competition, look inward, develop her gifts, and with help, gather a circle around herself to celebrate her passage into womanhood.
This Set of Three booklets presents a timely process ( 3 months or so ) for a girl to commit to working with mentors on a rite of passage. The girl prepares around her chosen talents working with her mentor, then culminates her experience in a ritual celebration her family gives for her peers, and her women family and friends (her circle of support). Part I for Girls, Part II for Mothers and Mentors, and Part III for Grandmothers, offer easy-to-follow suggestions and ideas for each generation as they participate in the initiation process-an enriching experience for all involved.
The author drew on the initiation process that she and her daughter, Hilary took to create an initiation experience. Hilary chose her mentors, worked with them, and then invited three generations of women to witness and to celebrate her triumphant rite of passage! Many years later, a young adult, her daughter's thriving, creative life speaks for the wisdom of the rite of passage process.
"At the moment of stepping through the Gateway, I felt so loved! I felt that every girl should have the opportunity to experience a Gateway Celebration! At thirteen, I took on the 3-month challenge of this personal initiation. Through it I came to understand myself. I understood what it meant to be connected to a great network of strong women. Now I see that the work I did then has created a life-long root structure for me. I know that, should I need help, all I have to do is reach out to my community."
Hilary Chapman, Girl's Gateway Initiate
Book descriptions below.
What is a rite of passage, and why make one? What do I have to do to prepare, and who will I choose to help me? After accomplishing my goals, how do I create my Celebration? Where will I hold my Celebration, who will I invite? Making a rite of passage is a challenging experience-one you can surely achieve with the help of a few people who are close to you. In this book you will find everything you need to begin.
What are girls saying about Part I?
"At the moment of stepping through the Gateway, I felt so loved! I felt that every girl should have the opportunity to experience a Gateway Celebration! At thirteen, I took on the three-month challenge of this personal initiation. Through it, I came to understand myself. I understood what it meant to be connected to a great network of strong women.- Now I see that the work I did then has created a life-long root structure for me. I know that, should I need help, all I have to do is reach out to my community."
Hilary Melcher Chapman, Girl's Gateway initiate
"Frederica Chapman is a woman of creativity, courage, and optimism, and while most of us pay little or no attention to ritual, she believes in the power of ritual to guide our lives."
Jane Burdick, Feldenkrais practitioner, and Girl's Gateway mentor
As busy as girls are these days, the author writes, suggesting that they take time out to think about their life as a story, to discover more possibilities, and out of these possibilities to make better choices for themselves. She encourages girls to choose a circle of friends and older women to Celebrate their moment of becoming a young woman. This book supports the tendency of adolescent girls to want to do things differently and more independently. It supports them as they experience the many changes that naturally occur for anyone moving from childhood to young adulthood. It supports their sense of responsibility.
With step by step guidance, a girl learns about girls rites of passage from other cultures, about imagining the possible challenges she could set for herself, choosing and working with her mentors, setting a date, creating an invitation, and choosing a location for her Celebration. It includes a chapter on the use of symbols in the planning of her initiation ritual, as well as a complete list of resource materials - books and videos - that pertain to girls' initiations. The book is both informative and fun, inspiring a sense of PLAY throughout the initiation process, and in preparing for the completing Celebration.
Help your girl retain her own voice, her spontaneity, her truth. Watch her emerge as a unique and confident young woman! This book offers inspiration and support to help you celebrate your girl's transition from childhood to adulthood with awareness and joy. Written for both Mothers and Mentors, it highlights your part in the process as your girl designs her very own rite of passage, and Gateway Celebration.
"When we claim the realities and the concerns specific to our genders, and when we welcome our youth into their gender group, we will be calling forth the best they have to offer, we will be helping them believe in themselves." an excerpt...
What are people saying about Part II?
"In this age, when our adolescent girls are bombarded with media images of sexuality, and pressured to comply with artificial female stereotypes. they need access to positive female role models to help them discover who they are as individuals, and who they wish to become. The Gateway book provides a roadmap for girls to make conscious and self-affirming choices as they step onto the road to womanhood."
Rebecca Gervais, Middle School teacher
"Frederica Chapman brings an essential gift to young women and to the elder women who love them. When genuinely experienced, rites of passage bestow maturity on the individual and on the culture."
Marion Woodman, Jungian analyst, author of "Conscious Femininity"
Part II of this three-part series, recounts the author's experience with her own daughter's initiation, including first-hand information and tips on how you, as Mother, and as Mentor, can play your part in supporting your girl's initiation process, and her culminating Celebration. Rather than look to puberty as a predictable time for your girl to rebel, you could trust the foundation you have built with your girl up till now. Yes, she needs space in which to discover herself, but with your help and permission, she could make her necessary discoveries and changes in a constructive manner. Continuing to believe in your child's goodness and ability to make positive choices will encourage her to do so. Bittersweet is the moment when a Mother decides to step back, herself, to make room for her daughter's relationships with her Mentors. However, when she does so, the rewards can be enlightening for everyone involved. Truly a wonderful investment
As your granddaughter creates a challenge to work for, and to present for her rite of passage Gateway Celebration, let her know that you too, are embarking on your own preparatory process. Then, at her Celebration, stand as "the elder" in your family of women, and shine in the richness of your experience and wisdom.